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One step at a time

by Optimist at Heart on 8 February 2010

Yes, that's what I'm trying to do - take one step at a time and congratulate myself for it!

Something we depressives are VERY good at, is putting ourselves down ... oh yes, we are champions at that; make it an Olympic sport and we'd get gold every time!!  But congratulating ourselves on anything?  Pah! ... forget it!!  So that is exactly what I am trying to do now, as my latest attempt in fighting this life-sucking demon called "Depression" - I am making a plan/list of positive changes (some small, some larger) that I want to make in my life and trying to adopt them one at a time.  I think it's important to make each one a habit (if I can), but to start with, I am going to give myself a HUGE pat on the back for each step I manage ... starting with actually making the list!!

And effort counts - it really does - even if we don't achieve what we set out to achieve, we should feel good about even TRYING, that is the key.  Take yesterday, for example: I had made it part of my "plan" to go swimming today, as I need to do more exercise and swimming is something I love.  There is a pool in the next town, but getting there for the session I wanted (over 50s) would have taken me almost 2 hours on 2 buses and cost far more than the entrance fee in travel fares!!!  So ... I spent the entire afternoon looking for alternatives and, lo and behold, I eventually found one!  Yay me!!  :))

Now, I could have despised myself for doing "nothing" all day yesterday (didn't even get dressed!) and that is what I would normally do ... but I decided, instead, to congratulate myself for not giving up on something I wanted to do, just because it didn't fall into my lap easily.  I had to WORK to get today's swimming session organised to my satisfaction and I gave myself a pat on the back for doing so.

We need to break these cycles of putting ourselves down and feeling worthless ... because we deserve better than that.  Take one small step at a time on the road to recovery, and feel good about doing it - that's my aim!

Take care,

Val x


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